“We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” - Marianne Williamson
“We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” –Virginia Satir
Discover the life, love and relationships you want
Couples and Marriage Counselling
When love hurts and emotional connection is frayed, you know how desperate it feels. Every day I help couples in distress learn to walk toward each other instead of inadvertently creating road blocks to intimacy. Drawing on the highly successful therapeutic approach originated by researcher and expert couples therapist, Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT – Emotionally Focused Therapy – I support you and your partner to begin to slow down your painful dance and see it, (the negative dance), rather than you or your partner, as the problem. As couples begin to recognize and understand emotional triggers and their context, they are able to calm the pattern that hijacked their relationship. They soften and move closer.
In the second stage of therapy, partners discover new ways to communicate. How they now respond begins to build a new, positive dance that strengthens their attachment or love bond. The emotional safety couples create paves the way for love and passion to rekindle.
The concluding stage consolidates their learning. New ways of experiencing and responding are anchored, creating the frame for of a lasting and happy relationship.
Counselling for Individuals
Do you feel stuck in sadness, fear, discouragement or loneliness? To me, it is as if our inner wise self was waving a flag, calling us to attention. As young people, we often learn to cope with family dynamics by putting aside some of our authentic feelings and needs and adopting a mask of acceptability. In the process, we develop limiting self-beliefs, designed to keep us safe, that can leave us as adults, feeling stuck and struggling. The behaviours we adopt to try and cope with pain, such as addiction, affairs, distancing, blaming, criticism of self and others, offer us a temporary fix but ironically ends up perpetuating our upset. In my years of counselling experience, exploring pain rather than trying to avoid it is the route to a life of new possibilities and greater happiness.
My own personal growth has always been an important and valued part of my life and I understand and appreciate the courage it can take to make the first call. Creating a non-judgmental, caring and responsive environment that deeply supports you is my first consideration. With collaborative counselling you can change your life starting now.
In our first appointment together we will begin to explore your issues, clarify what you are hoping for and consider a plan using therapeutic approaches tailored to your unique individual needs.
For a complimentary 15 minute phone consultation or to book an in-person or on-line Skype appointment:
Fran is a Registered Professional Counsellor (RPC) with the Canadian Professional Counsellor Association and a Master Therapeutic Counsellor (MTC) with the Association of Cooperative Counselling Therapists.